How to Rapidly Change Your Attitude

Let’s say that right now your attitude is negative. Imagine that something or someone has upset you and you are now feeling either angry or hurt, or both.
You can’t seem to let go of it – you keep wondering “Why?” or “What if?” or “If only..”

You might even be re-running the incident over and over in your mind.

In this state, it’s like being a rabbit or kangaroo caught in headlights – you can’t seem to move from where you are. It affects your body, not only your mind. It stops you from being effective at whatever else you’d rather be doing.

OK, we’ve set the scene; you can relate to this, can't you?

Now choose an event in your life that is like this. Got it? So let’s make the rapid change.

Step One – Ask yourself this question: -
Exactly what facts happened to cause this?
Make sure you answer in terms of the facts only, not your assumptions and presumptions or opinion.

Step Two – Ask yourself this question: -
Regarding those facts, what is the best possible truthful meaning available from them, which still fits the facts?
Allow yourself to imagine the best possibility.

Step Three – Ask yourself this question: -
In a year from now, will this event still matter?
Imagine you are looking at the event a year from now.

Step Four - Ask yourself this question: -
Regardless of this event, what do I have in my life that I’m extremely grateful for?
Choose 3 different and most important aspects of your life that you’re glad are present in your life, and then answer this “Why are you glad/grateful for them being in your life?”

Step Five – Finally, take three deep breaths and answer this question: -
What’s the most positive and useful thought I can have right now?

See that your attitude has changed to being positive and useful, and that now you can take action that is much more useful to you.

Until next time.